What’s Your Excuse This Time? Planning for Your Divorce
WARNING – If you can’t handle some harsh realities, stop reading immediately!
OK, are you still with me? Good. Because if you’re really committed to changing whatever’s making you unhappy, then it’s time to put on your big girl pants and stop making excuses.
As a divorce coach I’ve heard every excuse in the book as to why someone needs to stay in an unhappy or “dead” marriage. And they usually don’t like what I have to say (coaching is not about being a friend it’s about pushing you towards your goal and encouraging you) because it usually includes something like this:
What do you want your kids to think of you? Do you want them to see you as a strong and confident woman or a victim?
Change is scary. It’s OK to be scared. What’s not OK is to be paralyzed by that fear. When you stop and really analyze the excuses you give for not making a change, they really come down to one thing – FEAR.
You might be saying to yourself right now – “But Alison, you don’t understand, I have no job. I couldn’t possibly leave my marriage.”
You’re right. You can’t leave it TODAY. But what you can do is start putting a plan in place. That means small steps that will allow you to create a new life of happiness for yourself.
Some of those steps include:
- Opening up a bank account in your own name
- Opening up a credit card in just your name to start establishing credit
- Understanding your household finances and assets
- Taking an online class or volunteering at a local non-profit to get some job skills
- Getting a physical to make sure you’re in good health and starting to take care of yourself!
- Creating a vision board or writing in a journal about what your perfect day would look like
As a life coach who focuses on divorce, I work with you to put a plan in place so that you can manage the difficult transitions in a divorce and move forward confidently. You can learn more about my services here.